I know I’m not alone in imagining how wonderful it would be to get a new puppy. But all it takes is a few hours with an energetic puppy for those visions of calm, snuggly cuteness to dissolve into thin air. While puppies are fun and adorable, they are like new babies and toddlers: they require a lot of sleep and management, and not always on a schedule that’s convenient for the whole family. They have lots of sharp bits and love to chase, making them challenging housemates for children.
Trainer First, Puppy Second
In my dream world, all families who want to get a new dog would talk to a trainer or take a preparation class, much as they would if they were getting ready for childbirth. There is no need to go into this new chapter of your life uninformed. And doing so may mean that you have some damage control to do later. It’s easier (and less expensive) to work with a trainer before your new puppy joins your family than after your kids have been hurt or are afraid of their new housemate.
Puppy Reality vs. Expectations
I always find that honesty is the absolute best approach with entire families. When it comes to getting a puppy, this includes the discussing the reality that puppies are individuals with feelings, preferences and fears. They are not toys or constant playmates. They might not like hugs, noisy fire engine toys, or noisy homes filled with visitors. They need to have safe spaces to rest and require up to 18 hours of sleep (or more) every day. Kids need to know this, so that they aren’t crushed to learn that they can’t play with the puppy every time they want to, nor can their friends who may visit to meet the new baby.
So, how should you manage your kids and your puppy? Pens, baby gates, doors and other barriers are your best bet. Here are some examples and links to some of my favorite products. For more tips and strategies, take a look at this video that I made in response to the #TrainerTalk feed on my Facebook page, Pooch Parenting.
You Deserve Peace of Mind
If you are a parent of kids and dogs, don’t miss my free Facebook Group, Parenting Kids and Dogs. And for some additional support, join the waitlist for the Thriving Parents of Kids and Dogs membership: simple bite-sized training and bonding activities to help your kids and dogs to live safely and happily together.
